My name is Dan McLintock, and I worked with Scott Kiloby to develop the Kiloby Inquiries and the New Model of Recovery.
Before this work I spent 15 or so years in various belief and mind-based systems. I did so in an attempt to lessen my suffering and figure out “what was wrong with me”. In other words, I was looking for an answer. With the best of intentions, I innocently ‘reprogrammed’ myself. Much of that time I spent in self-help programs, therapy, religion, 12-Step, and the world of non-dual spirituality. I did have moments of experiencing relief and freedom. However, I also had a subtle suspicion that things were getting worse instead of better. Turns out I was right.
The problem with these types of systems is that I start believing that the concepts are real.
They become just another set of beliefs that compounds and intensifies my already mind/belief-based suffering. Thought is just like that- it creates suffering and separation because I’ve added something to what is.
It turns out I was doing the math all wrong.
Some of you may be familiar with the Kiloby Inquiries (KI) and our New Model of Recovery
(NMOR) and some of you may not. They are by far the most powerful tools Scott or I
have encountered. In KI/NMOR, we are not seeking to add to what is, but rather subtract.
There has been some confusion around exactly what the Kiloby Inquiries and the New Model of
Recovery are. For instance, are they nonduality? Therapy? An Addiction recovery program? What?
First, let’s start by explaining what KI and NMOR are not.
When we refer to the “Old Model”, “Old Model of Recovery” or the “Old Paradigm” we’re really
just talking about egoic consciousness. This means anything belief or mind-based. It’s the
iOS/operating system of the 20th century (and prior). There is an erroneous core belief and assumption driving that operating system. The belief is that external pressure- or imposition of will- is not only effective, but necessary for growth.
This ‘imposition of will’ can show up in many ways:
These impositions often lead to duality; right & wrong, good & bad, self & other, victim &
KI/MNOR is not that. Then what is it?
Here’s what the Kiloby Inquiries and the New Model do look like to us – the developers:
This work is the progressive undoing (via somatic inquiry) of any and all belief systems about
self, others, or the world.
These systems (designed to provide us with safety, security, and/or healing) often keep folks entrenched in their core beliefs of deficiency. We give ourselves permission to walk away from these old frameworks. This work is the releasing of basically anything mind-based that causes suffering through this kind of belief and/or identity. This includes:
- trauma (big and small)
- deficiency stories
- recovery programs
- spiritual concepts and programs
KI and the NMOR are reality-based in that they support the deconstruction of blocks to a clearer perception of reality and presence.
We support all of this through using a series of inquiry questions and prompts. From there, we watch how the body and egoic mind responds. Furthermore, we implement tools to help dismantle the content and structure of the ego/false self. By practicing this work, we are able to let awareness into previously hidden or unconscious areas.
By the way, when we say New Model of ‘Recovery’, we are by no means limiting that to recovery from addiction.
Above all, this is about recovery from suffering, period.
The Kiloby Inquiries (KI) are the “deprogramming” tools we (Scott Kiloby and Dan McLintock)
developed over the last 4 years of working together. These methods help to ‘undo’ this egoic
consciousness. They are more simplified than Scott’s previous work/inquiries. In addition, we created these active and penetrative tools with people in mind who might not know anything about non-duality.
We “dig” in KI.
This is because much of our deep conditioning/programming won’t just naturally arise. After all, it’s designed to stay unconscious.
The New Model of Recovery is for any kind of addiction.
This includes drugs, alcohol, processes, people, approval, religion, philosophies, spiritual seeking, martyrdom or just suffering in general.
It is the framework and environment in which the KI tools are most effective. This model is really just the lack of any model (aka love – no conditions). It is the progressive result of inquiring and undoing conditioning/deprogramming using KI or other inquiry methods. This is why training and deepening are so key for facilitators. In addition, using KI tools within this “model” requires a very high level of readiness because it’s reality/presence-based, not belief-based.
When belief becomes addiction
The majority of people haven’t weaned off of a belief-based design for living.
I’ll speak frankly here:
There is a reason Scott left his old community and began to evolve the work and create KI. As is in the nature of organizations and communities, the original method (which at its root is meant to undo dogma) slowly and subtly began to be co-opted, dogmatized and turned into a belief-based system itself. This created a sort of ceiling.
This ceiling (which we’ve seen cling on for dear life in ourselves, others and the collective) is
some form of victim consciousness rooted in deficiency/lack. It’s the most difficult barrier I’ve personally ever faced. I watch it sabotage myself and others all the time. We are all deeply programmed and trained to believe our deficiency stories, to suffer, to stay small and to hold someone else responsible for our pain. Therefore, the mere suggestion of reversing this (let alone the process) can feel like an affront to us. To do so seemingly threatens to take away our sense of control, safety, approval, and survival. It would force us to feel and take total and complete responsibility for our own pain. This is the last thing most people want to do.
In KI we don’t want to create ceilings, rules, dogma, belief systems, or philosophies – we want to deconstruct them all as we go along. This is where deeper freedom happens. This means we are even ready to deconstruct victim consciousness together. If you’re ready too, we invite you to come along.
Ready to Deprogram?
Scott and I always like calling it “deprogramming” because we were both so deeply programmed, or conditioned, and the inquiries helped us reverse that process. This is our intention and agenda when we facilitate or train people. It takes an incredibly high level of readiness to undertake.
If how we describe KI and New Model appeals to and pulls you, that’s awesome. If it doesn’t, we highly recommend you not practice KI, or that you stop practicing it.
Deprogramming is difficult enough for people who have suffered a lot and ARE ready for real
freedom. If you’re not ready or sure about it, we can almost guarantee you that the process
will feel like re-traumatization or an assault to you. After all, it’s dismantling your very sense of self and identity.
We have seen this very thing happen in regular sessions with clients who thought they wanted to heal, get clear, or wake-up. However, often those clients just really wanted relief and someone to hear or see them. Which is understandable.
But this is not that.
It includes being seen, heard, held in the space, but there’s MUCH more to it than that. Furthermore, it’s the willingness to see through the self who, for example, feels unseen and unheard. It’s radical and not for everyone. It’s been called “the Navy Seals of Spirituality.”
In conclusion, we felt it was necessary to further give context and explain exactly how we see this work.
We hope to come online together soon to explain more!
Until then here is free access to a series of videos explaining how the Kiloby Inquiries work: